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Click to read How Many Dating App Matches Does It Take To Find A Hookup?

How Many Dating App Matches Does It Take To Find A Hookup?

When it comes to finding a hookup on dating apps, it’s truly a numbers game. But what does the lead time between a match and a sexy rendezvous look like for dating app users and what percentage of Americans’ matches are converting into a hookup (i.e., any activity beyond kissing or making out)? We went

March 03, 2024 by bespoke

Click to read The Average Number of Sexual Partners Across America

The Average Number of Sexual Partners Across America

We’ve all gotten the question. You know, the one that makes you panic, squirm, and run quick mental calculations, hoping your answer is acceptable. What’s your number? And, no, we don’t mean your credit score. We’re talking about your number of sexual partners.

June 24, 2021 by bespoke

Click to read An Expert’s Guide to Anal Fingering

An Expert’s Guide to Anal Fingering

Anal fingering refers to the process of inserting a finger or multiple fingers into the anus, either by a partner or for self-pleasure. Anal fingering does not involve the whole hand, as that would be described as anal fisting. Fingering is generally a good starting point for those wanting to try out anal play but are not ready for full penetration with a penis or larger toy.

June 16, 2021 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read Anal Fisting for Beginners: A Fisting Guide

Anal Fisting for Beginners: A Fisting Guide

Anal fisting, not to be confused with vaginal fisting, is when one person inserts their entire hand into the anus of another. Though called “fisting,” the hand isn’t always positioned into a fist, although this can be achieved gradually. What’s commonly referred to as fisting can actually be an extension of the fingers into the anus up to or almost to the wrist. Think of the positioning as your four fingers leaning over to meet the pad of your thumb, creating a kind of cone shape or what most people call a “duck bill”.

April 19, 2021 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read America’s Favorite Sex Positions

America’s Favorite Sex Positions

As humans, we’re creatures of habit. Once we find a few go-to sex positions that tickle our fancy, we soon find ourselves cycling through a few common sex positions over and over. For many, a healthy rotation of tried-and-true sex positions is preferred because these are the positions that we genuinely enjoy most with our partners or where climaxing is guaranteed.

March 23, 2021 by bespoke

Click to read Why Americans Don’t Use Bidets (And Why We Should)

Why Americans Don’t Use Bidets (And Why We Should)

If you’ve ever taken a trip overseas, you know that culture shock can be very real. Different etiquette around tipping and different local cuisines are waiting to surprise Americans wherever they go. One less-talked-about culture shock faced by many Americans is their discovery of a bidet in their hotel bathroom overseas.

January 08, 2021 by bespoke

Click to read New Year, New A**

New Year, New A**

Year in and year out, especially during the holiday season, I make an attempt to play Santa–listening to all my client’s naughty (and nice) bedroom wish lists. And just like Santa’s sled, our asses break down every now and again. But while Santa may cheer “Ho! Ho! Ho!”, Bespoke Surgical treats anal injuries (and whatever else may bring you into our office) with an open mind and without fear of judgment.

January 06, 2021 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read Does Anal Sex Cause Prostatitis?

Does Anal Sex Cause Prostatitis?

Anal sex can cause prostatitis if not done properly. Anal sex is truly an art, with many intricacies that can complicate the act. The prostate gland is walnut-shaped and fills with fluid to help your sperm during ejaculation.

November 13, 2020 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read Sex Product Spending Across The U.S.

Sex Product Spending Across The U.S.

Advertisers will tell you that “sex sells” just about any product on the market, but when it comes to the sex product industry, what’s really making a splash in our shifting culture around sex. In recent years, mainstream pop culture has started to move toward a more “sex-positive” outlook, bringing various issues out of the shadows and getting people talking about what they really need in the bedroom.

October 27, 2020 by bespoke

Click to read STD Rates, Awareness, & Education in Each State

STD Rates, Awareness, & Education in Each State

At Bespoke Surgical, we are committed to educating our patients and community about the healthiest sexual practices for themselves and for their partners, whether that be through providing proper education around anal play in our Tales from the Tail series, Dr. Evan Goldstein’s advocacy work, or any other initiative we take on.

July 29, 2020 by bespoke

Click to read Survey: How Men and Women Feel About Their Genitalia

Survey: How Men and Women Feel About Their Genitalia

In recent years, the body confidence movement has found its stride across social media. Many young people are working to dismantle body ideals communicated by the media, and to instead find confidence from within. Here at Bespoke Surgical, we’ve seen firsthand just how much body image issues can impact a healthy sex life.

June 12, 2020 by bespoke

Click to read A Guide to Kegel Exercises for Men

A Guide to Kegel Exercises for Men

Kegels are pelvic floor muscle exercises for men and women. The Pelvic floor muscles are like a hammock between the pubic bone and coccyx bone and form a bowl shape of muscles that control urination, defecation, internal organ support, core support, and help with sexual function.

May 27, 2020 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read How To Be A Good Top | 8 Tips For Being On Top

How To Be A Good Top | 8 Tips For Being On Top

Bespoke Surgical has always been about the butt, but when it comes to anal sex, why should all the responsibility fall into the hands of the bottom? Tops should come to the bedroom with a full understanding of the ins and outs (pun intended) of the proper mechanics and the science behind bottoming.

April 06, 2020 by Dr. Evan Goldstein